hi, mr. what ...
godot (先生) ：
hi, mr. what-is-ur-name. i am a college teacher, fresh from school. snice i came here, i have been seeking a partner.i left notes on bbs, chatted in chatrooms, even went out to those nasty spots. but just no seccess. some were old,some poorly educated, some just obsessed with carnal pleasure. hard to ommunicate with them.descent guys if any, were married. and i feel pretty lonely.and i was fooled once, so humiliated,what is wrong with these @#%* people? i met cute guys online but them seem light years from me.u mentioned it almost impossible to carry on long -distance romance. so what shall i do?
damien lu ：
i have answered similar questions before. the reality is
that finding a lover is difficult everywhere, for everyone,
wether you are straigt or gay.
bars, bbs's, curising spots, are all just places to make
initial contact with people. unfortunately, most people
do not go to these places look for relationships,
they are
their to look for sex.
my advice to people have always been: look for friends
first. don't be in too much a hurry to enter into a
romantic relationship. you have to get to know people very
well before you should even consider long term relationships.
make as many friends as possible, get to know them well,
talk about each others' hopes for the future, what each
is willing to do, etc. once you have close many friendships,
love will follow.
if you want to talk more about this, email me.