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xiao (先生) ：
xing xing
i am not into actual sex with man, but as a man i like to be loved and cared by another man, am i a kind of sub-type of gay? as it is supposed that gay man is keen on sexual interaction with another man, isn't it?
thanks.
damien lu ：
your sexual orientation and how you approach sex are two separate things. not everyone enjoys the sexual act, especially certain specific sexual act. for example, a considerable percentage of gay men do not enjoy or engage in anal sex (whether as a active or passive partner). so, you do not or have not find sex with another man enjoyable does not mean you can't be gay. you might be asexual, or you might just not very much into sex. there are plenty of people like you in both straight and lgbt populations.