aibai, how a ...
aihei (先生) ：
aibai,
how are u? may i ask how to stop being a people pleaser? how to stop ruminating? thanks.
damien lu ：
these are signs of lacking self confidence. that's where you need to start. you need to find your strengths and weaknesses and work on the later. everyone feels unsure or tentative at times, that's normal. but if you persistently feel you need to please people in order for them to accept you, then it is something that need to be dealt with. if you like, we can talk more in details maybe via wechat.